8 Steps to Help Your Child Overcome Anxiety
3. Tell the worry to bug off. Have your child think of the worry as an annoying bug that won’t leave you alone. Picture the worry bug on your shoulder and flick it off. Tell the worry bug to get lost. Go away. Leave me alone. You have power over the obnoxious worry bug.4. Use logic! Logic is powerful. It is when you think about what is really true instead of what you think might happen. Logic aids as a reminder that bad things don’t happen very often. Then, knowing that even if something bad does happen you can get through it. Ask questions about the worry and try and use logic to see if it is even possible for the worry to come true and if it can how little of a chance is there it will happen.
5. Create a worry box. It can be made out of a shoe box or craft stores sell cheap boxes in many shapes that can be decorated. Let the child have fun decorating it and make it something they enjoy. Every time they have a worry they can write it down and put it in the worry box. The worry is to be left in the box and can be brought up during tip #5. In the meantime, they can do a different activity to actually take the worry from their brain to the box.
6. Designate a worry time. Schedule 20 minutes every night with your child that is worry time. It is during this time your child gets to freely tell you all of things he is thinking about. It provides you a time to listen to their concerns, validate their feelings are real, and discuss other ways to handle the worry. You should remind your child to wait until worry time every time they bring up things during the day. “I hear what you are saying, let’s talk about that at worry time tonight, why don’t you go (insert activity)?” This helps train them to put the worry away for a little while.
7. When worries start to take over your child and containing them to a scheduled worry time doesn’t seem to be working, Get MOVING! Go play outside, throw a ball, jumping jacks, trampoline, taking a walk, ride a bike, etc. Physical activity has proven effective as an anxiety reducer.
8. Relax with your favorite happy memory. Think of something you enjoyed doing and was fun. Maybe a family vacation, a time with a friend, or even a book you enjoyed. Picture it in your mind and go through the memory step by step. This trains your brain to think about other things than your worries.
Just know, fighting against worries is very hard in the beginning. Your child is used to having the worries, listening to them, and having them control their thoughts an actions. Practice, practice, practice when the child is calm and they will then be able to draw from the when they are in the midst of heavy worry. When practicing and understanding the eight steps above, your child will become stronger, and fighting worries will come easier. They will begin to imagine the worries actually going away.