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Becoming a Stepfamily: Delivered and Redeemed


Dysfunctional is the “Norm”

Many stepfamilies or pre-stepfamily couples discuss a certain level of guilt or shame that accompany their move into another marriage. In the first step, Deal’s big idea here is, “to discover a redemptive God who loves, forgives, and provides strength and direction for your journey.” As Deal discusses in his video, he was looking for a family in Scripture to help be a guide to be a “faithful family”. Deal, reported that he started in the Old Testament with Adam and kept going. He saw just how dysfunctional families have always been, but how God still uses us in all the brokenness. The pressure our modern families put on themselves to appear perfect is not realistic or even biblical. Deal, discusses how biblical families are far less than ideal, and hopes to alleviate some of the stress stepfamilies have in trying to appear to have it all together.

All Are Welcome

Just like any other family, stepfamilies must learn how to endure disharmony within the family unit. It can be difficult when navigating the blending process, but it does not mean that it is “wrong”. Furthermore, individuals within a stepfamily may feel like a second class Christian following the separation of their previous family and the blending of their next family. Deal, argues that there is no such thing as a second class Christian because there is no such thing as a first class Christian. Believers, don’t we know this to be true? We all have sin — the church needs to be more of a hospital for those that are in need rather than a place to go and receive blame. Stepfamilies, I implore you to find a church family that will welcome you as you are. 

D & R

In closing, the shame and guilt that might weigh believers down as they enter into a new marriage, one in which they desire to glorify God, need not be afraid. Ron Deal, reflects on a time he was approached and asked, “what do I do with the D and the R on my forehead?”. This person was referring to the D standing for divorce and R for remarried. After a pause Deal responded “I believe that the D and the R stand for delivered and redeemed”. Yes! Yes, indeed! Please allow those words, delivered and redeemed, to wash over you. Allow yourself to rest in mercy, forgiveness, and grace. Move forward in your stepfamily journey, delivered and redeemed!

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