Today let’s explore how therapy can be a game-changer in recognizing and transforming attachment styles. As a therapist, I've seen the profound impact that attachment style can have on couples and individuals seeking to cultivate healthier, more fulfilling relationships.Â
Attachment styles are like the lenses through which we view our relationships with others– anything related to love, intimacy, trust, connection, and all other essential parts of close relationships. For those fortunate enough to have a secure attachment, most things relationship-related tend to come easily. However, for those with anxious, avoidant, or disorganized attachments, relationships can be a source of constant struggle and stress. But here's the exciting part: with the right support and guidance, therapy can help people unpack old patterns, rewrite relational scripts, and help create deeper, more meaningful connections.
Although becoming aware of your attachment style is a big part of the journey to more fulfilling relationships, therapy isn't just about gaining insight—it's about action and empowerment. Change requires awareness, but awareness in and of itself doesn’t automatically lead to change. In therapy people can also learn new skills and gain the tools they need to break free from old patterns and create new, healthier ways of relating. During sessions they also get to practice using those skills and tools so that they become comfortable using them on their own.Â
For couples, this often means learning to communicate more effectively, deepen trust, and cultivate empathy and understanding. Therapy is often about creating a safe space where both partners can show up authentically, vulnerably, and without judgment toward their partner.
For individuals, it may involve exploring self-worth, setting boundaries, and learning to prioritize their own needs and desires. It's about gaining autonomy, embracing (and appreciating) their vulnerabilities, and rewriting the stories that no longer serve them.
This journey of moving toward a more secure attachment isn't always straight-forward or easy—growth rarely is. But the transformations in relationships that become possible through awareness and work make it worthwhile. If you're ready to take that first step, know that we’re here to walk alongside you every step of the way.
Barbara Johns, LPC Associate
I believe that in order to heal, people need to have a safe space where they can explore what is contributing to their problems and how they can use their difficulties as fuel for personal growth in order to turn things around and live life the way they really want to. My goal is to provide you with that safe and supportive environment as well as with new tools and skills that you can take with you on your journey toward healing and growth.