Life is long and we go through so much stuff that, at times, we have to rediscover ourselves. Everyone has their own reasons for rediscovery. Some people have lost themselves in their jobs, being a parent, divorce, or have just never found themselves. This is very common because a lot of people define themselves by these things. For some reason or another you have gotten to a place where you realize you don’t know yourself.
The hardest step is when you realize that you are unfamiliar with the true you. This is when you initially realize that the person you see in the mirror is a stranger. At that moment, you’re probably more lost then you have ever been in your life. You realize your favorite foods aren’t really your favorite. The people who you thought you enjoyed being around, are either no longer around or you no longer enjoy their company. In these instances, it’s important to take the following steps to rediscover you:
Understand your past
After you realize that you are a stranger to yourself, you have to identify how you arrived at this point. It is time to reflect on your past and understand what went wrong. How did you lose yourself?
Re-evaluate your interest
If you are in a place where you are rediscovering yourself, it is likely that you have grown and didn’t even realize it. It is very likely that you don’t know what you are capable of doing or what you like or dislike at this time. For example, you really used to enjoy running marathons. However, now marathons aren’t challenging or fun anymore. At this point you may want think about what made you happy versus what makes you happy now.
Look for meaning
The next thing you have to do is find out what gives your life meaning. What gave you meaning at one time, might not mean as much to you today. For example, if you have attended the men’s choir study with the same men for a period of time, however, you aren’t feeling the motivation or challenged as you once were. If it has grown into something you have always done, you may want to reevaluate. Is this meaningful or are you just going through the motions.
Write it Down goals
It Is possible that the main reason you have lost yourself is because you have accomplished all your goals. It may be time to come up with some new updated goals. If you are anything like me, you focus on your goals and you place all your energy into completing them. What’s next? Create new goals and write them down.
If you are having trouble rediscovering who you really are feel free to call Amy Wine Counseling Center at 832-421-8714.