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I’ve been noticing a lot lately that so many of us have the idea that we’re supposed to be perfect before we deserve good things. We’re supposed to be more regulated, less anxious, more confident, more assertive, less negative, bounce back from hard things in a minute, and so on.  It seems like these messages sneak in slowly and quietly through conversations with well-meaning friends and family members, movies, books, advertisements, and what I think might be the biggest culp

When we begin therapy, we often want to focus on what's happening right now — the anxiety, the relationship struggles, the patterns...

As a child, I never thought about the connections I had with others and how I showed up in relationships. I had never analyzed the...